Financially trapped with family and out of ideas...

Hello everyone. I need advice for my complicated situation. I doubt that there's anything I can do about this but I need a good vent and thought of strangers. So I'm 25m and for the past 5 years of my life I've been primarily in charge and responsible for my family's finances because my family has a bad history of letting things like electricity and rent go over due. It was fine at first. Everyone was paying on time and then problems came up. They'd overspend and I'd have to make up the difference. I tried to bring up with my mom and brother but the toxic relationship everyone has for each other is ridiculous so that didn't really change. Year later my brother up and left us when we were kicked out of our trailer because of a faulty septic tank that the landlord didn't want to fix and left us his dog to take care of. Moved into a small 2bdr apartment with my mom and my girlfriend at the time. My mom lost her job soon after and my girlfriend at the time couldn't take it anymore and cheated then left me. I don't blame her. I was always stressed out and not there emotionally always trying to figure out how we were going to eat the next day. It killed me when she left because it was a 5 year relationship and she was the only person I felt like was on my side. I was in a very dark place for awhile and had an opportunity to live in another state for a year with a friend. So I took it and tried to make a life in a big city but I realized it just wasn't possible maintain a life there. I had to leave my roommates because they were doing drugs and dealing. I had found a place to stay and was working on a manager training program for a retail store there but I soon become homeless for reasons out of control and had to move back home. I moved back and my brothers moved back in and no bills have been paid for months. He was in and out for the next year. I was able to get hardship transferred to a store back home and worked my way back up to management but I wasn't make enough money. On top of that my mom got sick and got on short term disability with her work so she wasn't contributing to bills. My sister can't contribute because she has mental disabilities. Then COVID came along and I lost my job. The unemployment was just enough money to keep everything going. Soon after I met someone new struggling so I moved her into my broken home because it was better than being in a condemned trailer. She financially supported us with her unemployment as well because she was let go from her hotel. After a year and half of being unemployed me and my girlfriend was finally able to get another job after my mom's health kept declining causing her to be out of work all this time. We've been struggling supporting everyone by ourselves. My brothers makes more than both of us but he's got "other" finical responsibilities and pays the car insurance. I just don't know what to do anymore. All I wanted was to get my family stable and be able to live my own life but it just keeps dragging and things keep popping up resetting our financial progress. I've helped my mom with all her forms for work, apply for social security disability and even filled out legal documents to get a felony hidden from her record so she can have more opportunities for other work. I feel terrible for my girlfriend because I feel like I dragged her into this and I love her for always supporting me but I feel like I'm holding her back from a better life. I wish I could just runaway with her but if I do then my mom, sister, brother and animals are homeless. We don't have a car of our own and can't save any money. We're barely not homeless now. Currently a month behind on rent and I keep making deals with the landlord but I'm not able to keep them anymore. I can barely afford food for me and my girlfriend. My mom doesn't eat and my sister has food stamps for herself. I'm so tired and just want to give up. I start college this month after dropping out 5 years ago and I'm already so stressed. My family's toxicity has skyrocketed at this point also. If anyone's got any advice or experience in a situation like this please share because I can't just keep battling this in my head making myself more depessed each day.



Submitted August 18, 2022 at 04:35AM by tiredsoul10 https://ift.tt/5RjnNOH

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